A magical Christmas can still include tantrums, high temperatures, sibling fighting, sleepless nights, poo explosion, teething to name but a few. A perfect Christmas day can still include a dinner rejected by a toddler. Managing your own expectations and the reality of the week is probably the best thing to start with. Manage your expectations of their behaviour and your own.
I approach this in the same way I would have approached introducing a new staff member to a service or home I worked in. After your own personal vetting android interviewing process I would then consider the following steps to help with introductions
Don’t be stressing yourself over a 10 minute window in your child’s entire day! Lets go through some FAQ, firefight some reoccurring issues and make our lives easier:
Returning to the 9-5 or typical school and work routine after the summer holidays can cause allot of confusion, frustration and feelings of being overwhelmed.
To our youngest members of the family it can be like we just changed the rules without warning and suddenly raised our expectations beyond what they feel they can achieve.
Surviving Car journeys with babies and toddlers; its important to prepare for success. So often we have such high expectations for the smallest members of our family whilst giving them minimal resources. A ten minute car journey can feel like a week to a young child. An actual long journey like an hour plus needs to be prepared for if you want it to be a peaceful and successful journey. A successful journey will be a great representation to the child of how to behave in the car in future and that car journeys can be tolerated and even enjoyed. Continuous unsuccessful car journeys can begin to create an association and then you’ll be tackling a whole bigger issue. Preparing an achieving successful journeys is akin to a good investment, it will pay off for you in the long run. You’ll have kids that don’t find the car aversive and are very tolerant of journeys long our short.
My 11 Low spend and No spend days out with kids:
One of the most frequent conversations I have with parents goes a little like this………………………..
Parent: My toddler has started to ——————- towards my baby.
Insert type of aggression: push, pull, throw, hit, slap, bite, pinch.
Me: When did this begin?
Parent: I think it started a few weeks ago when they baby started —————-.
Insert Milestone: sitting, crawling, weaning, talking, standing, walking
Me: When does it happen?
Parent: Normally, when I’m there, it definitely feels like its for my attentionf ollowed by; But I make sure they don’t feel displaced by baby and/or, But I give them loads of one to one and/or, But they love their brother/sister so much.