She wants you to text ahead and arrange a visit on her terms at a time that suits her. Child birth and becoming a mum first time, second time, eight time is overwhelming and comes with an enormous feeling of total lack of control. So naturally being in control of when and who she spends her time with is hugely important. For me this time I’m also considering Ned and how much disruption there will be to his little life all of a sudden so that too will play a part in when and who I want calling.
Now it may seem somewhat ironic or even hypocritical of a so called blogger (I use it loosely) to be annoyed about getting unwanted opinions but in my defense I don’t hound down followers, make them follow me, read my blog and watch my stories. I’m hear if you want to ask or listen but it’s totally your choice.
Where as people not just people some total strangers giving out very personal and definite opinions about my life without me solicitating said opinions in any way is a whole other ball game!!!
Here’s how the week went;
-When are you due? And how old is he?…….Wow your brave!
-Omg look at the state of you, you are huge.
-There was 16 months between my two boys and it was horrific, just to warn you.
-You know there’s actually an awful lot of sugar in fruit (judgey face).
-Wow your huge.
-You are definitely having a very big baby.
-you look great but that baby is going to be massive.
-How old will Ned be when the baby arrives……oh right well done ye I guess, I waited the three years.
And this week’s winner by a mile:
-Ned is going to be totally heartbroken when the baby arrives, just totally heart broken. You should prepare yourself, he might punish you.
So to summaries I’m an obese, uneducated, neglectful mother and I’ve done the one thing every parent strives to prevent, break their sons heart! If someone wants to mention something about where I’m going wrong in my marriage in the following days I think we’ll have pretty much everything covered.
Why do we value our own opinions so highly that we think we must absolutely share them. Why are we so certain our opinions are true and why oh why don’t adults learn to filter or perhaps have an ounce of sensitivity about what they are saying! There’s not one statement up there I don’t fear being true every day, every week, all the bloody time.
All I do, like any mother is try and get things right. Try!! So I’d like to go to the playground or sit in a waiting room or meet friends without being told, hinted or reminded that all my efforts still aren’t getting it all right, the margin of error is still plain for all to see.
Yep, there was tears not blubbering hysterics or anything I’ll save them for when someone important actually gives me an opinion I care about, but there was some sensitive, I’m pregnant and exhausted welling up for sure!
Enjoy Dee x
We’ve all seen that angelic moment on TV where the 7th heaven family make marks on a wall or door frame documenting their child’s height.
Bless, you don’t quite get what that means and you think your GREAT at eight, nine months pregnant and still thropping along! You’ll literally never get this time again. People aren’t just being kind! Rest!